Countless are the times that we have heard that phrase of. “The first love is never forgotten.” Although we will also tell you one thing. “First love does not always come in that order.” Because while it is true that the first time you feel butterflies in your stomach and your heart races just by seeing that person is special, the second experience you have in terms of feelings is even more so.
To begin with, let’s make it clear that there is not only one true love, there may be more in your life, all of them different and special. We will also have more than one couple, all of them different, and none is better than another or more or less important, since at that moment that you are living it, there is no one else and there is no one better than him / her.
Movies, romance novels, series. All these formats have contributed to us having that thought. But we do not recommend idealizing feelings, since they will have nothing to do with reality later.
The first love is the first experience, but the second love catches you more mature, and it shows. It has many benefits for you, for your partner and for your life together. When we are teenagers, we are unable to control our emotions, mainly because we are experiencing many of them for the first time. On the other hand, when we grow up we have more experience in everything, and although love makes us a little blind, we have the ability to react according to what we have learned previously, not to make mistakes from the past or, in the same way, to repeat what did work and so happy it made us at that time.
When we start a new relationship, it is much easier to put into practice everything we have learned from the previous ones. The key is to respect each other and, also super important, attraction. With these two clear points, the relationship will go from strength to strength as long as it is an honest, healthy, mature and beautiful relationship.
It is also important to know ourselves and know what we want and what we are looking for. And that is becoming increasingly clear over the years. That is why maturity is a key point when it comes to love. In an adult relationship, you will have more ability to maintain control and emotions.
Therefore, the second love is more likely to be better than the first. In addition to the experience of previous relationships, we will also find ourselves in a more stable moment of our life. This will help us make the relationship work and make our love story as stable and long-lasting as possible.
How to rediscover your partner through the 5 senses
The alarm sounds. Good morning darling. Shower. Warm water. Breakfast. Toasts. Coffee. Some juice. Kiss. See you later honey. Messages. Some call. Maybe we eat together, surely not. Job. Meetings. You come back Good afternoon, honey. The same on TV. Today you have to cook. You have dinner. Pijama. Kiss. Good night darling.
Life has high doses of routine and this is positive since it would be chaos to live in absolute improvisation. A commitment to a couple also implies the acceptance of a routine. However, monotony should not be a constant, we must leave room for creativity to be able to surprise with small gestures and actions that enrich us.
It is important to nurture our relationship so as not to fall into boredom, the feeling of longing for the dating stage, the lack of communication or even the feeling of loneliness in company.
To avoid this routine, we propose a new way to rediscover our partner based on the most primitive of our being: the senses.
We all need sensory stimulation to understand the world around us and the way we obtain information is through the senses: sight, hearing, touch, taste and smell.
Our senses are in continuous dialogue with the environment. If we receive too much information we saturate them and if we obtain little information, we enter into apathy. On the other hand, if we stimulate them correctly we can enhance our relationship as a couple physically and mentally.
How to rediscover your partner? Go for it!
The sense of smell
The sense of smell is directly connected to our nervous system and leads us to memory and memories. How many times does a fragrance evoke a place or a person? We have to create a good memory of the couple’s encounters to be able to use them in the future. We need an essence that is pleasant and comfortable for us, that encourages interest in interacting. Some scented candles, some flowers, a perfume, a massage gel.
The sense in which we humans trust the most is touch, even more than sight. Reality is not seen, it is touched. That is why contact with a partner is so important to enhance desire. A brief caress, a massage or holding hands while we walk, are actions that stimulate our body.
Through sight we carry out a large part of our day-to-day activities. Stripping the couple of this sense for a few moments is very stimulating since the rest of the senses multiply their capacities, increasing the excitement. Although we can also try to enhance it through external objects. Do you dare?
The function of the ear is to detect, transmit, and convert sounds into electrical impulses. Therefore, stimulating this sense as a couple can give a lot of play, from using a song that brings you good memories to telling a fantasy in the ear of our partner. And the thing is. whispering always works.
Mmm, the taste (don’t worry, we don’t just think of chocolate). To enhance this sense there are hundreds of ideas. The one that never fails is the kiss that transmits an electric current caused by the testosterone content contained in saliva and that directly influences sexual desire. But we have many more options to play with the flavours and build a new experience as a couple. Imagine that your partner is a canvas and you paint with edible colors.
The important thing when exploring the senses as a couple is to let go, and this is not always easy because we may or may not have enough confidence in ourselves or in our partner. As a little help always goes well, we present the box of the 5 senses.